So yesterday we dealt with speaking words over our friends – true friends. While I was talking to one of my 8D’s, (8 Diamonds – One of the 8 gems I mentor), I was told by the person that they wrote down the declarations and was stirred by what I wrote. I felt very happy. However, when I realized why she was stirred I felt like sharing, the secret behind such a blessing in my life – my four confidants.
In Bishop T.D. Jakes’ infamous message on the three types of persons you will meet in your lifetime (Confidant, Constituents and Comrades), he says “If you have 3 confidants in a lifetime – you did good”. Smile. So I believe, I’ve done very well… based on his statement because I have four. smile.
After sharing with her, I feel like I wanna give you guys also, the background on how I became blessed with these precious gem of friends. Maybe it may inspire someone today.
I had no friends growing up LITERALLY! I had a few persons I thought were my friends but I later found out that everybody just used me to get in or out of trouble, or pretty much for ‘my mind’. I got fed up in my teen years about this cycle and just felt even lonelier because I am an only child. I always said: “I just want a friend who loves me – for me.” Seemed an impossible dream. While attending a youth gathering in my latter teen years, I heard the preacher say amidst his message: “If you need a true Friend, you can get Jesus as a Friend”. I found the statement very weird but intriguing. I had never heard that before and put in such a simple manner. “Have God as a true Friend?”, I questioned. “Is that really possible?” I had a relationship with Him being a Christian and all, but I never had the concept He could be my Friend.
I wondered how to make that happen. Then as if that preacher was reading my mind, he said “Do you wanna know how?” Eyes wide opened, I said in my thoughts, “yes, yes, yes”. He replied “Just ask Him” I’m like “huh? just ask? Is it that easy,?” Sounded way too simple. A mean, shouldn’t it be way more complicated? (I have found that we Christians love to complicate things). Well, eventually I prayed a prayer of some sorts. Moved on. Forgot about it.
I can’t say I fully understood what the prayer meant or was supposed to do, but I figure, I would make the first step towards Him. So I ‘befriended’ the Holy Spirit and He me. I was intent on making Him my first best friend for a lifetime. (Best Friend Eternally – My BFE). I thought about it and decided to take it very seriously. So I began spending a lot of time with Him and no one else. I made being with Him an exclusive VIP affair. I stopped going certain places where my “friends” would go and I used that time and just be with Him. Just hang out. Nothing planned or preconceived. Just chat. In the beginning, it was difficult. It certainly felt like I was talking to thin air but I knew He was real. I would talk for hours and hear nothing back. At times I was frustrated but I didn’t give up hope. I figured, He must be hearing so maybe one day He will answer me the way I want Him to. I would tell myself: “After all He hears when I pray, and He answers, so I know He is hearing me now. One day He will answer me the way I know He can – One on one”. Hours turned into days, days turned into months and months became years. I got to know Him and he allowed me to get to know myself. After a while, I could hear Him – in my heart – my thoughts. I could feel Him on my body. I could sense Him in my spirit. I felt loved – really loved. Whenever I left the house, I couldn’t wait to return to be alone with Him. We talked about everything and anything, for hours at a time. He is a great conversationalist I have found. We had a lot of fun and laughter together – still do.
The interesting thing is, I didn’t realize these sequence of events, until one day I was sharing about some hardships I underwent and how if it wasn’t for Jesus, and my friends I would’ve never survived. Just then, in that moment – I realized how rich I am to have such valuable possessions in my life. It was in that inconvenient time the Lord showed me in flash the entire thing I’m explaining to you now. It was like rewinding a movie right back to the beginning. I was amazed.
Then he whispered in my heart: “When you stopped searching for friends, and became a friend, I was able to bring the right friends to you”. I stood there before the mass of people listening to me, completely dumbstruck and fumbling, as the whole scenery melted my heart. He continued: “you sowed yourself as a seed of friendship to Me, so I gave you a harvest of True Friendship”.
I began to weep in front the crowd of people listening to me. They must have thought I was nuts or just overwhelmed from all my struggles. I really didn’t realize what I had done all those years ago. I was just tired and weary so I took Him as a last option, but he turned it around all for my good and now I am reaping a harvest straight from his hands. He’s awesome.
You see, I was always talking with God as my Father, but never knew him as Friend. At age 19, I made that decision to ‘befriend Him’ and within 2 years my first true friend was birth. This happened while at another youth event those years ago. He showed me a vision of an assignment he was empowering me to do and then He told me “go and talk with *Pamela because you are going to need her help in the task I am assigning to you”. I was not amused because as a young immature person with petty issues, I was not fond of Pamela at all. Albeit, I obeyed and within a year we were best of friends. She then became my first
human best friend for years… we were inseparable – like sisters. She introduced me to the book “Good Morning Holy Spirit” by Benny Hinn and that took my relationship with the Holy Spirit to a whole other level.
A few years later, the Lord Jesus provided me with the other 3 friends through various random, but divinely orchestrated events. Now my once seemingly impossible dream is a complete reality. They love me for me – ALL MY FLAWS AND EVERYTHING! I am blessed to be such a blessing to God and others. God is good.
So, now you’ve heard the story. Why have I told you? What’s the point?
The main point I want you my reader to take away from my story, is that, when I became the change I wanted – the change I needed came rushing to me. Let me encourage you today, be the change you want to see. Be the person you want in your life. When you do, those same persons will come right around to you.
Have a blessed day today my gorgeous reader.
*Pamela – not her real name.